Communication

23Oct07

This is particularly important for long distance relationships (i.e. if you are in college and your girlfriend is in highschool, or the other way around; you are both attending different colleges, etc).

I have a few personal grievances about this one. Perhaps they are just me being blind sighted by getting to see my boyfriend every single day and then all of a sudden seeing him only once every three weeks. Or maybe my complaints are actually legitimate. You can decide.

I fail to see  how two people  can communicate if.. they are not actually talking. In someone else’s eyes, perhaps, it is obvious that you will know exactly how your girlfriend is, what she is doing doing, whether she is off frolicking with other guys, and vice versa, by not talking to her. Perhaps you don’t need, or even particularly want to know. But then, why are you even in this relationship in the first place?

The thing is, relationships are about communication. In fact, lack of communication is one of the most prevalent reasons that relationships fail, and it may be why most people think long distance relationships cannot work. In a long distance relationship, two peoples’ schedules are often radically different, and they may not have time to keep in touch with one another. This leads to problems, such as missing each other, disregarding one another, or even completely forgetting about each other.

Well its simple to see why that would be disastrous.

The simple way to say it is: just put in a bit of effort! It can’t be THAT hard to click on your girlfriend’s screen name and type “Hi.” If it is, then you are probably severely handicapped, and should be looked at by a certified psychiatrist. What about typing “hey, whats up?” on your otherwise worthless cellphone and clicking the send button? Or even, if it doesn’t cause your brain to overload and malfunction, calling her? Or, if you are technologically impaired, they still have the modern day version of the Pony Express around… or is Snail Mail obsolete too? If so, try email.

Because, frankly, girls get very agitated when we think you are not paying attention to us, and we become protective. Girls need a certain amount of communication to thrive (why do you think we talk so much with our friends?). In fact, some girls just never shut up. If it is too MUCH communication you are worried about, try bringing it up gently (“Honey, I have a multi-variable calculus test tomorrow morning, and you e-whispering sweet nothings into my AIM Box is really not helping”).  To girls, however, there is no such thing as too much communication. We want to know what you’re up to (not necessarily every second of every day), so even if we’ve been too busy to be online, send us a short email telling us how it’s going, and asking us how we’ve been.

Trust me, we’d do the same for you.

Except, in our case, the email would be twice or three times as long.

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